Sometimes Parent Group families have an adult child (over 18) living with them inappropriately. Often the parents, by providing room and board and other privileges, enable the adult child's disruptive self-destructive behavior. The adult child may not feel that they need to get a job or find their own place if somebody else is taking care of it. They may feel free to continue substance abuse or illegal activity.
I can tell you from personal experience plus other families that I've seen over the last eleven years, that living with a drug user makes everything crazy.
So a family involved with the group for a long time (plus we've been friends for over 20 years) had allowed their 40 year old daughter and 13 year old granddaughter move in. Over a period of time, my friend realized her daughter had a substance abuse problem which was affecting everybody. She held an intervention with the daughter which failed. So the daughter may no longer live in her house. Skpping a lot of intervening (and future) events, she set a date with her Parent Group team to move the daughter's belongings to a storage unit. We made fairly elaborate plans about what to do if the daughter showed up (she didn't). Avoiding violence is a top priority. So this morning, Dennis and I along with my friend and her husband and two other members met at 8:30 am at a nearby school. The moving truck was rented and the storage unit leased. My friend was able to get all of the belongings together. As usual, it was a lot more that they originally thought. Quickly we went to the house and managed to load a 14 foot U-Haul truck in approx 1/2 hour. Then we all went to the storage unit and unloaded the truck. Without incident.
Now the next hard part starts.
With drug abuse, there are so many hard parts, seems like they will never end.
Picture filched without permission from a webmd log. This wasn't our exact truck bit it kind of looked like this.
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